Mom's 75 and has had dementia for at least two years. She didn't shower twice a week when she was well and she's just about to tell everyone off and quit because she's not real motivated to begin with. She's doing her physical therapy and is a lot more with it mentally. I don't want her to give up because of a shower. I'm tired of battling the CNAs and nurses over this. Am I wrong?
She needs to suck it up and shower.
In my humble opinion, twice a week is not asking too much. Maybe your mom would be more cooperative if you mentioned you could detect an odor about her.
I doubt that you’d find any facility willing to give up on this issue.
If she refused, they would mark her as “non-compliant“?If so, that’s pretty harsh too.
I think while a person is a resident with other folks in a shared space like rehab it’s reasonable to ask them to have two showers a week. It may be because of a standard of care they developed according to a new industry standards for best practices.
But non compliant for this? That’s too far, imo.
If everyone in the place showered only once a week--phew--it becomes one of those "stinky" facilities we all abhor.
Also, by bathing her, the caregivers can see if she has skin issues before they become serious.