Hi all -My mother's been there over a month now and as of last week contracted COVID. She was in a general state of decline anyway so this just exacerbates her physical and mental decline. The facility told me she would have to stay an additional 2 weeks AFTER her symptoms are gone, so I anticipate she'll be there quite a while.
Besides dealing with that, an immediate problem is I need to continue to pay the AL facility which is part of the same complex, and after this week we'll have to start paying for the rehab side too, since insurance coverage will stop. The more I think about it the angrier I get - she contracted COVID there, will be forced to remain there, and PAY for both sides indefinitely.
I have a meeting scheduled with admins from both sides this week that was scheduled to talk about where she can live, and would appreciate any suggestions on how to 'negotiate' with them on a reduced rate or any other points I can raise, under the circumstances.
Your mother needs more care now. The rules for payment at my brother's ALF were pretty cut and dry. First of all, the amount of care you need is the amount that you have to pay for. When all the money is gone so are you. That is the long and short of saying something that can be stated perhaps more kindly, but remains a fact.
Rehab is reimbursed by Medicare to the extent it is. I don't know if there is anything special re covid? I really don't know.
I would plead. I would say "Mom has only this much money and it is terrified to think she could outlive her assets and be dumped to live the remainder of her life somewhere so much less nice, with people who don't care as much. I know you are all suffering here as well, attempting to keep the illness at bay and to protect all, but is there ANYTHING that can be done. Any way you can work with us".
I think that you will hear "No, I am so sorry, but there isn't; everyone is suffering the same circumstances you are; and we cannot give someone a special deal and not give it to someone else."
This is all so tough. I am so sorry you are going through this and you are doing EVERYTHING you can. I would say that the anger is not your friend. This is a pandemic. This is what is happening to so many. I couldn't be sorrier, but that doesn't change a thing. Best of luck. If you have a good outcome hope you will let us know what magic your worked in your Mom's behalf.
That is not fair and if the meeting doesn't work out in your favor of paying for one or the other, I would contact a news service and they would not like the bad publicity.
I fact if at the meeting they don't agree to you only paying for one, I would tell them you will be speaking to the News about it.
And of course if they don't follow the rules at the ALF she will be asked to leave. Most ALF don't keep you there if you don't pay. ALF don't have to follow rules and laws that Nursing Homes and etc. do, as I understand it. They are not regulated in quite the same way, unless I am mistaken .
I think this serves as a warning to the rest of us that aging loved ones should always be booked into medical facilities in their own name and with their own name as responsible party. You may step in and pay those bills anyway, but if you have not signed as responsible party they cannot force you to pay. That gives you some leverage. Once you sign as responsible for the bills you have no leverage. What they charge is yours to pay.
The Q&A suggested having a legal review before signing, as who knows what's in the fine print (sometimes it can be worded such that we the uninformed might miss something.) If one can't get legal review, certainly read EVERY word, question anything that might be suspicious terminology and sign it as the "resident's agent" instead. Links are below, but here's part of it:
sign "...as the resident's agent. Signing the agreement as a responsible party may obligate you to pay the nursing home if the nursing resident is unable to. Look over the agreement for the term "responsible party," "guarantor," "financial agent," or anything similar." Never accept them saying this is just "standard" stuff...
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/am-i-financially-liable-if-i-sign-a-nursing-home-agreement-for-someone-else-15051
https://www.elderlawanswers.com/should-you-sign-a-nursing-home-admission-agreement-6360
Certainly they should not be charging for any "add on" care, meaning care that isn't covered in the base AL price. If the base price includes meals and cleaning her room, they should cut you some slack there too.
Hoping also that what someone else said about the CARES Act is true.
It is difficult to keep the virus out completely, so unless the rehab place was being extremely lax, it probably isn't their fault, but it also isn't your mom's fault either, so why should she be penalized? If nothing suggested helps, you could file an appeal with Medicare. At least that would defer payment, if the appeal is denied.
Hoping for the best for you!
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