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Your profile says nothing about Mom. Does she have Dementia? Does she live in her home or an AL? Such a hard decision.
See if there is a "no kill" shelter near you. The one my daughter volunteers for has had some dogs all their lives. Be truthful. You need to surrender it because Mom can no longer care for it. It does not do well with other dogs and is protective. They need this info to be able to adopt it out to the right people.
I am 65 and one of my greatest fears is that I will have to give up my dog. Some (most) days she is all I have. She is protective of me, large and strong. I would be heartbroken and devastated if anyone decided I must give her up. If I had to give her up, my life could very well take a nose dive with no reason to “come back up” from it.
Does your mother’s dog get along with people? She is still a puppy and it takes some dogs, like Labrador Retrievers longer to settle down than others. Has any effort been put into training or socializing the dog? My dog went to dog daycare and loves other dogs. If she gets along ok with people, can you hire a dog walker? Can you put forth the effort to contact a rescue and ask them to help you help your mother to keep her dog? Is there family who can help? With determined effort, progress can be made. I’ve seen it done.
I think giving up her dog would be so hard on your mother, and might fracture the relationship you have with her.
Ask yourself this: would it be harder to deal with a mother's anger and animosity for giving up, or taking away, her cherished companion, or finding a way that she can keep it?
If there are teenagers or responsible younger children who would like to earn some money, that's an option. Contact your neighbors or your local Senior Center to ask about this.
Brownies, Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts (I forget what the younger ones are called) might have some interest in earning pocket change for animal care. I haven't dealt with them in years, so I don't know what badges could be earned, but it might be a possibility for dog walking and care.
A 1.5 year old dog is still young, and could benefit from obedience training. Would you be willing to do that to try to make the situation work out?
What kind of dog is this? Sometimes smaller dogs can have "little dog syndrome". And did she get the dog as a puppy?
I assume she's living alone; do you visit regularly, or are you out of town? Does she have anyone else to help her, and what role do you play? All of these issues could factor into the protectiveness the dog has, and how/if it can be trained to be a good, responsible companion.
Before taking any action to supersede her rights, think long and hard about what might happen to your relationship with your mother if you take her pet away from her.
First, I am not a lover of big dogs. Nothing that can put their paws on my shoulders and be as tall or taller than me. I am 5ft. I like well trained dogs and small.
OP says the dog doesn't get along with other dogs. I will assume Mom has moved in with OP and Moms dog doesn't get along with OPs. OP should not put up with a dog that disrupts her home. Our neighbor had a German Sheppard who was over protective of his wife. Anyone getting near her the dog became aggressive. They had to find it a new home. Maybe this is OPs problem. Or, Mom needs to be placed in an AL. To have an animal in an AL you have to be able to care for it.
I'm sorry but I have to disagree. If a dog needs to go it doesn't need to be the Mom's dog. Mom has already lost enough in a short period and has less coping capacity than a fully functional adult living in their own home.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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See if there is a "no kill" shelter near you. The one my daughter volunteers for has had some dogs all their lives. Be truthful. You need to surrender it because Mom can no longer care for it. It does not do well with other dogs and is protective. They need this info to be able to adopt it out to the right people.
Good Luck.
Does your mother’s dog get along with people? She is still a puppy and it takes some dogs, like Labrador Retrievers longer to settle down than others. Has any effort been put into training or socializing the dog? My dog went to dog daycare and loves other dogs. If she gets along ok with people, can you hire a dog walker? Can you put forth the effort to contact a rescue and ask them to help you help your mother to keep her dog? Is there family who can help? With determined effort, progress can be made. I’ve seen it done.
Ask yourself this: would it be harder to deal with a mother's anger and animosity for giving up, or taking away, her cherished companion, or finding a way that she can keep it?
If there are teenagers or responsible younger children who would like to earn some money, that's an option. Contact your neighbors or your local Senior Center to ask about this.
Brownies, Girl Scouts and Boy Scouts (I forget what the younger ones are called) might have some interest in earning pocket change for animal care. I haven't dealt with them in years, so I don't know what badges could be earned, but it might be a possibility for dog walking and care.
A 1.5 year old dog is still young, and could benefit from obedience training. Would you be willing to do that to try to make the situation work out?
What kind of dog is this? Sometimes smaller dogs can have "little dog syndrome". And did she get the dog as a puppy?
I assume she's living alone; do you visit regularly, or are you out of town? Does she have anyone else to help her, and what role do you play? All of these issues could factor into the protectiveness the dog has, and how/if it can be trained to be a good, responsible companion.
Before taking any action to supersede her rights, think long and hard about what might happen to your relationship with your mother if you take her pet away from her.
First, I am not a lover of big dogs. Nothing that can put their paws on my shoulders and be as tall or taller than me. I am 5ft. I like well trained dogs and small.
OP says the dog doesn't get along with other dogs. I will assume Mom has moved in with OP and Moms dog doesn't get along with OPs. OP should not put up with a dog that disrupts her home. Our neighbor had a German Sheppard who was over protective of his wife. Anyone getting near her the dog became aggressive. They had to find it a new home. Maybe this is OPs problem. Or, Mom needs to be placed in an AL. To have an animal in an AL you have to be able to care for it.