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Her memory is steadily declining, especially within the last three months. She says she wants to be left alone because she loves her bed. She is currently in assisted living and they say it’s time to place her in a memory care center. She does not want to leave. Don’t know what to do???

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She is 83.
I am 82 and independent.
It is difficult to answer this without knowing a bit more about your mom.
You listed this under Alzheimer's and if that is what she has, then yes, this is normal in the circumstances. I would, however, have a physical check up and basic testing of blood and urine to make certain she is WNL (within normal limits).

Sleeping more and eating less is the norm. It may be time to discuss palliative care and hospice with the MD at this checkup. Time may be closing in and you may be nearing end stages.

Wishing you the best, and glad that your mother is peaceful and not agitated. Stay in close touch with her caregivers. I am so sorry.
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If she wants to sleep, let her sleep. If she doesn't want to eat, don't worry about it. Your mother is 83, and is probably getting close to the end.
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If mom is not wanting to get out of bed and obviously not at risk of "escaping" I do not see the reason to move her to Memory Care UNLESS her care takes more staff time and staff then they can manage. Typically a higher staff to resident ratio is had in MC than in AL.
I would see if mom would qualify for Hospice at this time.
Stopping eating and drinking is typical at end of life. So is increased sleeping. The last month or so my Husband was sleeping 18, 20, 23 hours a day. Sometimes did not even wake when I changed him.
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Perhaps it's time to call in hospice as sleeping a lot and not wanting to eat are all signs of end of life.
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If you get mom on hospice, the AL may let her stay there until she passes. That's how many facilities operate. Speak to the Executive Director about it. It's ridiculous to make mom move to Memory Care at this point.

Good luck to you.
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