He is under hospice care but has recently become very unpredictable. We are heart sick over this. We need to remove him from the home and put him in a nursing home. We are worried no place will take him in his agitated state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Another thing to consider is a Hospice facility, if your hospice provide has one. In any event, call your hospice contact today and tell them that this is an emergency and you need advice right away. They should be able to send a nurse out to assess the situation quickly.
The number one priority is keeping your mom safe. That comes above all else.
Please let me know if you have already been through a uti treatment with either of them.
I hope you find a way to calm him down so he can stay at home through the end, especially since this is moms desire. It would break her heart to put him out of the house at this time. She needs to be safe but her heart needs tending as well. God Bless all of you.
The Doctor and the Nurse can get anxiety under control with medication. Once that has been taken care of either at home or he may be taken to an In Patient Facility until the medications have worked then you can decide if he has to be removed from the home or he can stay.
From your last comment it does sound like his time is short.
Please do not let these last few days of agitation be the thing you remember. Keep in mind what he was doing was not him but this terrible disease.
I do hope Hospice has helped you and your family. And I hope your Dad is finally able to rest easy. Keep telling him that you, and your Mom will be alright and let him know it is alright to go...
In any case, you might check with the nursing home(s) available - perhaps one or more will have a memory unit; if not, they should be able to recommend a good next step.