He is under hospice care but has recently become very unpredictable. We are heart sick over this. We need to remove him from the home and put him in a nursing home. We are worried no place will take him in his agitated state. Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
Your mom should not visit him alone for a while but with another family member until he settles - be aware that he will blame her for everything he can so be prepared to deflect him with answers on : she's stealing his money/things , she''s having an affair with XX, it's her fault he is in home, it's her fault that he hits her, he wants a divorce, it's her fault his shoe lace undid etc by having some pre-arranged answers like it's the dr's orders, it's only until ZZZZ happens [even if you know it's not], mom was becoming ill so maybe when she has her strength back YYY will happen etc
I've seen it all first hand so get help for dad [& therefore mom] by removing him from the house/app't they live in & be aware that other issues will come up so think out worse case scenerio then deal with them easier when they come up because you are prepared