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Call the program director and ask some questions. Is he participating, does he appear to enjoy himself,etc. My mom has been attending a program at our Senior Center for 5 months now. She was nervous in the beginning but loves going. The first couple months I emailed the SW and asked how she did. Only way to know why hubby's reluctant is to see what's going on
Ask him "Is there a reason you would prefer not to go to daycare?" Then, if there is not an answer, go alone to the day care and ask if there has been an incident, another resident that he has had a problem with recently. That's about all you can do to check on reasons. If there seem to be none I would stop asking, and would simply take him as usual. You have your own needs for a break and for time to do things. Look on it as college. Class isn't always fun, but you go there anyway.
As suggested, call the program director to see what their perspective is on your husband. Something may have happened there that upset him. I know the adult daycare center where I live is great with telling family members of any issues they witnessed or of any concerns. One of the gentlemen in my caregivers support group takes his wife to our local adult daycare center and she loves it. But for several weeks she was upset when he picked her up and said that she didn't want to go back because certain men were staring at her. He talked to different people there and was told that she was fine but did seem a bit more paranoid, so he talked to her doctor and they changed some of her medications and she's been fine ever since. So perhaps it's something as simple as that. I wouldn't give up the daycare for him, because they really do a great job with their clients and most people love it. Plus it gives you a much needed break and allows you time for yourself. That is worth the price of admission for sure. I wish you the best in getting things figured out.
Does he have dementia? If so, he will not be able to tell you why he does not want to go.
My mom had Alzheimer's and attended a day program regularly. She rarely wanted to go. I never told her where we were really going. I would use therapeutic white lies to get her to the car. When we arrived there was never a problem getting her to go in.
The lies? She had a doc or dentist appointment Going shopping Hair appointment Anything she would want to do
By the time we got in the car she did not Remember where we were going.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
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Then, if there is not an answer, go alone to the day care and ask if there has been an incident, another resident that he has had a problem with recently.
That's about all you can do to check on reasons. If there seem to be none I would stop asking, and would simply take him as usual. You have your own needs for a break and for time to do things.
Look on it as college. Class isn't always fun, but you go there anyway.
I know the adult daycare center where I live is great with telling family members of any issues they witnessed or of any concerns.
One of the gentlemen in my caregivers support group takes his wife to our local adult daycare center and she loves it. But for several weeks she was upset when he picked her up and said that she didn't want to go back because certain men were staring at her. He talked to different people there and was told that she was fine but did seem a bit more paranoid, so he talked to her doctor and they changed some of her medications and she's been fine ever since.
So perhaps it's something as simple as that. I wouldn't give up the daycare for him, because they really do a great job with their clients and most people love it. Plus it gives you a much needed break and allows you time for yourself. That is worth the price of admission for sure.
I wish you the best in getting things figured out.
My mom had Alzheimer's and attended a day program regularly. She rarely wanted to go. I never told her where we were really going. I would use therapeutic white lies to get her to the car. When we arrived there was never a problem getting her to go in.
The lies?
She had a doc or dentist appointment
Going shopping
Hair appointment
Anything she would want to do
By the time we got in the car she did not Remember where we were going.