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He was previously was the sweetest, nicest man, has changed. He’s 95.

Oh my gosh, TexasAger. I’m so sorry. How awful. It’s late for most forum participants now but hopefully more people with experience with this scenario will be responding with some insights for you soon.

In the meantime, has he been diagnosed with any medical conditions? When did the behaviors start? Could you get him in to the doctor (discreetly letting him or her know that there’s been a drastic personality change resulting in frightening, aggressive behavior beforehand)?

Thinking of you.
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There are medications to calm his anger and agitation while you work with a neurologist or geriatric psychiatrist for a diagnosis.
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He may be in the early stages of Dementia. You need to get him to your PCP to have tests run. Labs will show what his numbers are.
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Next time he erupts like this, like today, call 911 and have him taken to the ER for an evaluation and possible transfer to in-patient treatment. They will at least be able to calm him with medication.
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BanburyOkie65 23 hours ago
absolutely not. an elderly person... she can call her primary they can get him with geriatric care.
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Meds. Talk to his doctor. Demand a psych eval.
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This is abusive behavior and no one deserves it, no matter the cause. Get him to the hospital or doctor, you’ll need to describe his behaviors. He needs medication to calm him, remember even he doesn’t like feeling this way. Be aware it can escalate to physical violence so do not delay on having him seen
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If it's a sudden change, have him checked for a UTI or other infection. They can show up with only behavioral changes as the only symptom. Could be a sign of dementia as well. There are meds that can help calm him in these cases.
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Call your primary and request pallative care. Its not hospice its a team of ppl specialized in geriatric care. they will help you. he can go on some meds too even a .25 xanax will help. make sure hes not in pain. if he is ask your primary for pain meds for him.. my hubby was 88 and i managed his moods w that and it worked great and he was sic k so much of the time.
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