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To assist you better, I would draft an outline of all potential changes, ranging from meals to living quarters, clothing, assistive devices, appointments, etc., then continue identifying specific issues. I.e., bathroom issues might include installation of grab bars, which could also help in areas where your mother might need to hold onto something as she moves from room to room. Issues would be the size of the bars, locating a carpenter (and ONLY a carpenter should install these), etc. No rinse bath products might also factor in.
As to meals, you might want to inquire into Meals on Wheels delivery if either you or husband will be working and/or out of the house during mealtime. With winter coming, you might also want to stock up on foods that she likes, to minimize shopping and "away" time during inclement weather.
If she'll be visiting different doctors, begin identifying ones in the areas of care she'll needs, and find out if they're accepting new patients.
Along that line, I would prepare a medical contact and history list for appointments. I did this for my parents, and then myself, including their (and my) contact information, their Medicare and BCBSM contract numbers, allergies, surgeries, medical issues, treating doctors in the past (and/or current), procedures, etc.
This will be very helpful not only for medical appointments but in the event of emergencies. I always took my medical synopsis with me to appointments and to the ER, and it was available for EMS when they were called.
If you can create this kind of outline, and find solutions before she moves in, it would make life a lot easier.
And there will be events that you haven't planned for; that seems to be de rigeur for in home caregiving.
I would also identify entertainment options, especially if she's mobile and you live in an area where walking is safe.
Your local Area Agency on Aging can be a good resource for information about services like free or low-cost tramsport services, senior centers and case management. They can provide a "needs assessment" to tell you what level of care your mom requires and they will sometimes do a survey of your home with an eye to safety for older people.
I very much agree with getting medical providers lined up before she moves. You don't want to start looking for a doctor after an emergency presents itself.
Your profile doesn't say anything about why your mom needs to move or any limitations that she has.
You want to find out this information BEFORE she moves in. We have several posters who found out that their parent was much more physically or mentally disabled than they'd been led to believe.
If you are sharing expenses and houses, you also need to have a complete picture of her financial sitiution. Again, we have posters who accepted their parent's "my money is none of your business" only to find unpaid debt, rampant gifting to relatives and shopping addictions after the fact. Also make sure that you have a deep understanding of Medicaid regulations in YOUR state. A session with a highly qualified eldercare attorney can be a good investment. Co-mingling funds, buying property together or having a parent pay for renovations can cause disastrous penalties down the road.
Do not rely on "my neighbor says" or "I've heard that..".
Medicaid regs change and you need-up-to date expert advice.
What conditions does your mother currently have and how old is she? What kind of relationship have you had with her over the years? Does she like your husband and respect your marriage?
If you could please provide more details you will get more specific insights from the forum:
- how old is your mom? - what are her issues (bad health, cognitive/memory, immobility, etc) - what is her financial condition? - are you her DPoA? - how old are you, do you have minor children at home? - do you or husband have any physical or mental health issues?
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
As to meals, you might want to inquire into Meals on Wheels delivery if either you or husband will be working and/or out of the house during mealtime. With winter coming, you might also want to stock up on foods that she likes, to minimize shopping and "away" time during inclement weather.
If she'll be visiting different doctors, begin identifying ones in the areas of care she'll needs, and find out if they're accepting new patients.
Along that line, I would prepare a medical contact and history list for appointments. I did this for my parents, and then myself, including their (and my) contact information, their Medicare and BCBSM contract numbers, allergies, surgeries, medical issues, treating doctors in the past (and/or current), procedures, etc.
This will be very helpful not only for medical appointments but in the event of emergencies. I always took my medical synopsis with me to appointments and to the ER, and it was available for EMS when they were called.
If you can create this kind of outline, and find solutions before she moves in, it would make life a lot easier.
And there will be events that you haven't planned for; that seems to be de rigeur for in home caregiving.
I would also identify entertainment options, especially if she's mobile and you live in an area where walking is safe.
I very much agree with getting medical providers lined up before she moves. You don't want to start looking for a doctor after an emergency presents itself.
Your profile doesn't say anything about why your mom needs to move or any limitations that she has.
You want to find out this information BEFORE she moves in. We have several posters who found out that their parent was much more physically or mentally disabled than they'd been led to believe.
If you are sharing expenses and houses, you also need to have a complete picture of her financial sitiution. Again, we have posters who accepted their parent's "my money is none of your business" only to find unpaid debt, rampant gifting to relatives and shopping addictions after the fact. Also make sure that you have a deep understanding of Medicaid regulations in YOUR state. A session with a highly qualified eldercare attorney can be a good investment. Co-mingling funds, buying property together or having a parent pay for renovations can cause disastrous penalties down the road.
Do not rely on "my neighbor says" or "I've heard that..".
Medicaid regs change and you need-up-to date expert advice.
- how old is your mom?
- what are her issues (bad health, cognitive/memory, immobility, etc)
- what is her financial condition?
- are you her DPoA?
- how old are you, do you have minor children at home?
- do you or husband have any physical or mental health issues?
Thanks for the extra info.