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She is in an assisted home. Don't know what to do. How to do it or who to talk to about what we need?

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Have you spoken to an eldercare attorney?

Even if she has lost her memory, can she still understand legal documents that she is signing in the moment?
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Ask for the Social Worker or a Social work connected with the Assisted Home. They can guide you how to do temporary guardianship for your Mother so you can manage her affairs. In fact I am shocked no one has reached out to you during admission or prior hospitalization, because they generally need family involved when patients cannot sign their own admission papers. You will need to collect mail meanwhile and will have to have someone in charge of paying crucial bills that might have serious repercussions. Do not sign your name to anything. Keep diary daily in composition book with no tear out pages and with no erasers, so you can be recompensed if you have to pay a bill. You do not say how much family is involved. You will need a get-together to decide who wants to do what/is willing or able to do what. You will eventually perhaps need an elder law attorney so someone can take over as conservator or guardian for your Mom.
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Focusing only on one aspect, does she have assets that would be distributed?    Who and how many heirs does she have?    Is there friction in the family by those anticipating to receive post death assets?   Are any assets held jointly with others?

If she has no assets, and holds accounts jointly, the issue of estate planning is moot.

With rapid memory loss, though, you're wise to address this now.  

If she does have disposable assets, I would read some estate planning guidelines of firms in your area before choosing an elder law or estate planning attorney, as you want to be sure that you're getting someone very experienced, knowledgeable and amenable to working with someone facing declining memory.

Check your state's or county's bar association for practice area groups, identify the EP and EL firms, review their websites, get pricing (hourly or by EP package planning), and raise the memory loss issue before you decide on someone.
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I am so sorry for your family.

My grandmother had a series of strokes that took her from Friday being fine to Monday with full blown dementia. It is difficult when it happens quickly.

A certified elder law attorney can help you navigate through this situation.

nelf.org is where we found ours.

Best of luck and a great big warm hug for you.
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