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I’m not on her checking account and can not be added because she has no ID as she let her driver's license lapse. I can not get a Ga ID as she has no birth certificate and one can not be obtained. She was born at home and has never had a birth certificate.
At this point I do not want to be her provider and don’t feel she is safe to live alone. She has Medicare Advantage and is eligible for VA benefits.

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Call APS and let them sort it out.
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MelissaMun Jan 2020
What is APS?
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I don't use a debit card. But I know the money is deducted from your bank account. So any transactions should be on her statement. Does the statement show how the card was used? Like $200 used at Acme? If so, this is proof that you bought groceries. Her statement should be pretty constant. Electric, gas, rent/mortgage ect.

Anyone who is familiar with Dementia should be aware that people suffering from it are paranoid.

I agree with Tacy, maybe hold back on APS until u find out where u stand. Maybe consult with a lawyer.
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worriedinCali Jan 2020
The transaction will show where the card was used. Not what it was spent on. So i wouldn’t say it’s proof of much because a $100 transaction at the grocery store could have been $20 worth of food and $80 cashback that went in to OPs pocket. Or it could have been for the purchase of giftcards. The fact the statement says $60 ACME doesn’t prove it was spent on food for mom. I am not at all saying that’s what OP did, just trying to explain why the Transactions on the bank statement aren’t exactly proof. Receipts show how the card was used. Statements show where it was used. OP needs receipts.
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I would back off and let her figure it out. And I would not involve APS at this time. She can hire a service to do her food shopping or she can order on line and it delivered. There are services like Visiting Angels that she can hire to help her inside of her home. She can Uber or cab if she wants to go somewhere. Give her some time to realize that she cannot handle this on her own and then go from there.

I've learned in dealing with stubborn seniors that it is best to just let them be and patiently wait for the next shoe to drop. Good Luck!
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