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This is a common and frustrating issue. Does she have dementia? She may not understand what she is doing (not that this helps you).
Could you try a different kind of brief? The change may help her either by making her more comfortable, or just confusing her because they go on differently. Carol
My aged mother said the seams irritated her. We switched brands a few times. Even if your m-i-l cannot communicate with you clearly, something as simple as a scratchy seam might be the problem.
My mother, age 92, hated wearing diapers (as she called them) and would frequently remove them at night to be more comfortable. The extra work that this caused was almost overwhelming some days. There were certain brands that she found more comfortable than others. Surprisingly, her favorite was a drugstore brand pull up made for women. She hated the bulk of gender neutral pull ups. It was one of the more inexpensive choices, also. One thing I had to do to make her more comfortable was to cut a slash down the front of the pull up. Using scissors, I would make a vertical cut of about three or four inches down the center at the waist. This made it feel less tight around the waist and they still stayed up.
my dad doesnt complain , but i complain when they leak , i notice depend is the best one out of everything eles , depends holds more pee and leak just a lit bit , i use the cheap kind during the day and use depend for night time .
my mom used to do the same thing. What we did was get her a jumpsuit that zips from the back so she couldn't pull her underwear down. You can find it at buckandbuck.com . Depends aren't that great. If you have a CVS near you , sometimes they have a full-service medical supply center. I'd get that brand. Or I'd go online to try to find better diapers. If she has Alzheimer's, the fidgeting includes taking off: clothes and/or underwear.
Some of big stores sell special diapers at wholesale prices, If you have a SAM'S club or a SUPER WALMART they also sell their special type of diapers in different sizes. I found them to big bettter than depends. That is where I had gotten my mom's even when she had to go into a assisting living. I went to special surgial hospital stores when she was up north and also when she came to Florida with me they were not as good and cost more money. When she was in the assisting living they sometimes use the large green ones, just like most hospital do. They are easy to ake off for the nurses with pull off with tabs on the sides, the pulls up can be taken off by some of the patients. Your parent may have the signs of Dementia or they can not control them selves any more. You can even put a pair of underwear on so she does not pull them off. It is a very hard issue. Mom is at peace now with my dad. It ws a long battle but I was always there to take care of her. I always check for diaper rash and made sure there was no smell or bed sores at the end. When she was up north it was bad, when I first found out about the illness myself. I walk in to the smell of pee through the house. She had no control and was wearing just panties and the social services or nurses did not do anything to help her in New York, that is why I brought her to Florida. You are not alone, we all have different experiences especially with the hygiene part with the elderly. Bless you at this time of year. patrica61
You made some excellent points, Patricia. Watching for skin sores and breakdown is really important. If the elder is uncomfortable she is more likely to want the brief off, and sores hurt.
Thanks to all who took the time to comment! Yes, she (my MIL) has dementia (6th stage). I never thought about overalls! She now has no control over her bodily functions. I am careful to wash & dry her thoroughly, and watch for any breakdown of skin! Again, thanks to all. . God bless! I don't wish this on anyone, but it is helpful to know we're no alone!
my father has dementia , but have no clue what stage he is in . he still has his mind and can answer me whatever i need to know . but i have to tell him ok get up ok put ur hands up ok need to start walkin etc tell him what to do and dont do . he can barely walk . leans way over to left side . but he can eat no pblm but as for drinkin i think pretty soon i will have to use training cup . what stage is that in ?? dr in fla is the one said he has dementia but didnt say what stage . that was few yrs ago .. he is in indiana with me over a year now . yes he sleeps alot ... sad .
Thank you Carol for all the advice that you give. You helped me out alot through my tough times. The Dementia is hard on every one, as you know and I experienced until the end. My dear mom is at peace. I give thanks to this web stite for all the kind words and advice that was given. Unless you have some one or have taken care of someone with serious health problems you don't know. May you all be bless this hoiday season. Thanks again everyone out there. patrica61
My mother in law is allergic to the plastic of the diapers Are there any cloth diapers? Where can I get them/ I live in Athens, Greece. I could order them fro the States and pay by credit cards Thank you, B. Dietchi
maybe ive had the luxury of unlimited time with my care recievers but in my case the dementia patients have been so mentally helpless that they not only trust my directives but hint, ask, or plead for them. this advice isnt about me, its about un- fu**ing things from the moment you hit the door but keeping the demento patient aware of the logic. my aunts tv , without fanfare found itsself 15 feet closer to my deaf, incoherant aunts chair tonight. sometimes you follow, sometimes you lead..
Looking for assistance in purchasing Bed/couch underpads and depends(diapers) as well. I buy them at grocery store and getting expensive. Dad has Medicare and incontinence getting bad. Does he have to be on Medicaid to get help??
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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She may not understand what she is doing (not that this helps you).
Could you try a different kind of brief? The change may help her either by making her more comfortable, or just confusing her because they go on differently.
Carol
a few times. Even if your m-i-l cannot communicate with you clearly, something as simple as a scratchy seam might be the problem.
i use the cheap kind during the day and use depend for night time .
Thanks for your input.
Carol
dr in fla is the one said he has dementia but didnt say what stage . that was few yrs ago ..
he is in indiana with me over a year now . yes he sleeps alot ... sad .
Where can I get them/ I live in Athens, Greece. I could order them fro the States and pay by credit cards
Thank you,
B. Dietchi