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He is in assisted living and hates it. He says everyone is too old. He is a young 80. What can I do?

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Nothing other than listen, sympathize and comfort.
Not everything can be fixed.
I am assuming the car is nowhere around and your partner safe in his current environment.
My brother didn't like ALF either, but said it was a bit like the army when he was young in that he didn't like it but he "made the best of it" and indeed he did.
You will be the one he complains to because you are the one he feels will have an answer. I am so sorry.
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Take him out to Lunch and go for a drive.
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ArtistDaughter May 2, 2024
Yes, to get out of the facility once in a while will most likely help. To see into the distance, look at farm animals, the countryside, whatever is available, will give him some joy in the moment and calm him for later on in the day. Encouragement to join in activities is good too. Friends of mine moved into assisted living and told me they now walk down the hall for the types of social events they would have never attended before. They are enjoying getting to know a different way of living, but also getting to know different types of people from those they used to hang out with.
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When he brings up the topic you need to redirect the conversation or distract him with something. You won’t be able to ever reason with him and even if you did he wouldn’t retain what was discussed. It’s hard but eventually he’ll stop talking about it.
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What you can do is stop listening to his complaints. He's where he needs to be!
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