I started a long post today and accidentally went out of it. I was describing what has been done and nothing works. My sister is hallucinating still. Three weeks ago I filed a petition to involuntarily remove her from her home by the sheriff's because condition continues decline.She is in a short-term facility that is discharging in her today with medication. This facility determined that the crisis team brought her to them but should have had her admitted to a different facility with a longer stay. They can't transfer her. Just discharge her to home.In November she went into a facility through the er. They kept her 14 days, and in their words stabilized her and sent her home with medication and home health. She immediately became non-compliant.I don't have any energy left. I am almost 70. I've lost one kidney to cancer and the other one that is left in stage for kidney disease. My spouse has metastatic prostate cancer and rheumatoid arthritis. My brother has non-hodgkins lymphoma and a spouse with early stages dementia. All senior citizens trying to make it. The crisis team has been here, the police crisis team also. They suggested conservatorship. Legal aid's waiting list is so full, it's closed. An Elder Law attorney retainer is 5 k.Once my sister gets in the house she's not coming out. She does not understand that she is ill.She is a senior citizen with SSA and Advantage Care Medicare. When she comes home today she is not coming out. She has assured this facility that she will take her meds. My sister was a naturalist before she became ill. One person at the facility said they would have to get her permission to give her injections.We live in Tennessee there seems to be many rules regarding the rights of a person with mental health issues. The only thing I have determined is, I'm going to sacrifice my well-being to insure that she is safe.At the first facility in November the psychiatrist told me that I had done everything I could and possibly saved her life. Now I'm worried about mine.What's my next step? I know this is long and rambling and I do apologize.
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Kudos to you for doing yeoman’s work on behalf of your sister. However, if you sacrifice your well being — and lose — who will take care of you, your spouse or your sister?
I think the most you can and should do is keep reporting her to APS or calling 911. Do not accompany her to the ER, give her a ride home from the ER or become her conservator. I might give a different answer if you don’t already have so many other plates spinning, especially yours.
May you receive wisdom and peace in your heart as your take care of yourself and your spouse.