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Who is not letting caregivers in the house? Why not?
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Are you a family caregiver who needs some outside help? Fear of strangers ripping us off is high with many seniors. Maybe get an agency who will send in help to do chores and then care - housekeeping, etc while you are there getting some rest or working side by side. As the client comes to know the person coming in trust can build.
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www.agingcare.com/articles/When-Elders-Don-t-Accept-Outside-Caregivers-in-the-Home-135237.htm
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It may take some time, but eventually she will get a caregiver, she will become to trust, and like as a friend. It helps to communicate with the agency, based on the clients likes & dislikes, this will help guide them in selecting the right caregiver for this client. It's tough letting a stranger into your home, to let them do things you used to be able to do. Sometimes it is a "Control Issue", as I said.... it will take the right caregiver to work with the client and share in their needs. Maybe if at all possible to be there when the caregiver arrives to offer support and security to the client as well as the caregiver, at least until the ice is broken. Best of luck.
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Yes, my over 100 year old friend REFUSES to have caregivers come into the home. She is legally blind and does okay on her own. But paranoia overtakes her, e.g. she thinks possessions will be stolen.
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Has the independant living asked that she have more help? That or she needs to find a place that can take care of her needs? If so, maybe telling her she will need to move if she doesn't comply. Independant are just that, for people who can take care bof themselves. The only supply meals and some services.
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That is one of the reasons our mom had to go to assisted living. She would agree to outside help and then refuse. Unfortunately, I could not hang out long enough for mom to build that trust. She is doing well at memory assisted living and now I don't have to stress 24/7 over whether she would allow the necessary outside help. If they won't let the outside help in, then they have to give up their wish to stay in their home. It is that simple.
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A friend ran into a similar set of circumstances where parents agreed they needed caregiving help, but turned it away when the caregiver arrived. A social worker suggested that it might be helpful to have family members in the home when the caregiver arrived, letting the caregiver in, greeting them, introducing them, staying in the room with parents and caregiver, to provide a comfort level for the parents. They did this for about a week until one parent said they didn't need to stick around anymore. I found this simple introduction to having a stranger come into the home a nice way to make the transition respectfully.
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