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To me it is so sad. out of eight children. I cant make them care. I hear of this a lot it is a fact of life.. But some one who is not family come along and love to help them it would be lovely if more people tried a little harder
beautiful1, One thing to make the situation fairer is, if the parents have resources, to pay the child who is the caregiver. It is extra hard for the lone caregiver to go without wages, a social life, and sleep, so that Mom's house can be divided up among all siblings.
If this could apply to you, set up a personal care contract, specifying your duties and wages. Report the income and pay taxes on it, so you are building up Social Security "quarters" for your own retirement.
if your the person the parents trust and count on then you must be a giving and selfless person. i became a dementia carer by the process of elimination. my sisters were too annoying and overbearing. as difficult as it was i now consider those 6 years to be time well spent . as jeanne stated, many elders cant remain in their homes for varying reasons. if your caring for your parents accept any help you can get. it can become too much for one or even two carers. i think the scariest part of elder caregiving is the uncertainty of your own future. when the elder passes away you no longer have the handicap of caregiving full time so you should be able to piece together what remains and resume living.
In many cases the children are in denial. They simply believe that Mom and Dad can go on forever. The wake up call comes when one of them goes to the hospital. That's the time to pull everyone together and agree to each take one day a week to check in on them.
There are lots of reasons adults children won't help. Some can't, because of their own health. Sometimes the family has always been dysfunctional and the adult children have distanced themselves in order to stay functional themselves. The same is true if there was abuse or severe neglect. Some do it because of conflicts within their own family -- a spouse who has been treated badly by the parent. Some are clueless about what they should do, and can be trained into helping. Some are just plain lazy, selfish, greedy, etc.
Depending on the reasons, it may or may not be possible to influence siblings to pitch in. It is never possible to force them to do it.
Depending on the parent's needs, there may come a point where one person cannot continue to provide care. In that case selecting a suitable care center and becoming the parent's advocate may be the best option.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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One thing to make the situation fairer is, if the parents have resources, to pay the child who is the caregiver. It is extra hard for the lone caregiver to go without wages, a social life, and sleep, so that Mom's house can be divided up among all siblings.
If this could apply to you, set up a personal care contract, specifying your duties and wages. Report the income and pay taxes on it, so you are building up Social Security "quarters" for your own retirement.
as jeanne stated, many elders cant remain in their homes for varying reasons. if your caring for your parents accept any help you can get. it can become too much for one or even two carers.
i think the scariest part of elder caregiving is the uncertainty of your own future. when the elder passes away you no longer have the handicap of caregiving full time so you should be able to piece together what remains and resume living.
There are lots of reasons adults children won't help. Some can't, because of their own health. Sometimes the family has always been dysfunctional and the adult children have distanced themselves in order to stay functional themselves. The same is true if there was abuse or severe neglect. Some do it because of conflicts within their own family -- a spouse who has been treated badly by the parent. Some are clueless about what they should do, and can be trained into helping. Some are just plain lazy, selfish, greedy, etc.
Here is one of the best articles about this subject on this site: https://www.agingcare.com/articles/siblings-conflicts-caregiving-for-elderly-parents-142138.htm
Depending on the reasons, it may or may not be possible to influence siblings to pitch in. It is never possible to force them to do it.
Depending on the parent's needs, there may come a point where one person cannot continue to provide care. In that case selecting a suitable care center and becoming the parent's advocate may be the best option.