I am the POA with a full time job, I have 2 sisters both disabled, 1 lives 30 minutes from them and takes any amount of money (cash) that is given to her (there is not set amount, no receipt). My sister is demanding she be their medical POA just because she takes them to their appointments. I have been POA for medical and finances for 13 years *My sisters have been jealous of that and I asked My mother if she wanted to change it and she said ABSOLUTELY NOT THAT MY SISTER DIDNT UNDERSTAND ANYTHING *this is true nor does she keep me informed on their visits, medication changes, etc. Then there is the narcotic medications that go missing. In order to find out anything about my parents health i must call each doctor when all I ask is that she kept me updated. I need to know how I can obtain information from her without constantly calling each doctor? My main focus is getting them transportation and a report of the labs, medication changes,etc. Obviously we do not get along. My Mother has been talked about making changes to the POA however with my sister current arrest she falls under the Moral Turpiture which would stop that from happening according to my attorney. In order for my parents to receive transportation in the future what is availiable and what are the requirements as far as income, would they qualify for transportaton?
Your parents can sign paperwork at the doctor's office saying that you are allowed to know their medical conditions, etc. Thus you can then call the doctor office for updates.
I'd check for medical transport companies through public transport or the medical offices where your mom has her appointments. As for VA options, this is a great resource: https://www.agingcare.com/Veterans-Assistance
If your parents are going to appointments at a VA Medical Center or a VA outpatient clinic, either the county or a veterans service organization like DAV if not both probably have a van that makes daily trips to those facilities. There is probably a local central arrival/departure point that you would have to coordinate transportation to and from, but you'd have to check. Meanwhile, to keep track of what happened at the appointment, you can also set up accounts for each parents in the VA's online medical portal called "MyHeatheVet" to keep track of their medications, new prescriptions, order and track refills, communicate with the providers, and access doctor notes. Finally, depending on their service connected disability status and maybe their financial status, there is reimbursement available for travel expenses to their appointments at a VA facility.
But, if your parents are seeing "outside" doctors....that is, non-VA doctors and without a referral from a VA doc, that's going to be like the earlier respondents...county transport, taxi, etc. However, even in this case, check with their providers and see if there is not an online portal system that would enable you to have access to what happened at each appointment and maybe even provide secure email to the doctors.
You don't have the best situation with your sister(s), and we wish you the best.
Have you placed your POA with all of her doctors? Or, if they all practice out of one hospital and share on a computer system, with the hospital? Have you placed it at the pharmacy where they get their prescriptions?
You quite obviously can't get the info you want from your sister, and apparently don't trust the information you get from your folks...so you have no alternative but to call their docs and pharmacy.
All the joys of dealing with siblings I read about on this site make me sooo happy I was an only.
I agree - when my dad was by himself with no local support, it was really tricky to communicate with his medical providers. He couldn't reliably report back to me what happened at the doctor's appointments. He also forgot appointments. We hired a care manager for him and it helped a lot.
To find one, google "geriatric care manager" and your city or region. Or go to aginglifecare.org to do a ZIP code search, to find one in your area.