I need some support. Mom is really weak. She either falls out of bed or falls using the potty. She doesn't walk very much and her legs are weak. Daddy is strong but when he has to pick her up, it hurts his back. Last night, she "fell out of bed" and Daddy had to pick her up with his feet. He can't afford night care. They have a caregiver during the day until 4:00 each evening. Please give me some ideas.
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Your dad needs to call 911 each and every time mom falls. They will come and check her out to be sure that nothing is broken or if somewhere is bleeding. Also they will get her off of the floor. They say that more often than not, the hip breaks and then they fall, not the other way around. She needs to be checked over for breaks, bruises and cuts. Their blood is usually so thin and their skin is too. And the bones are brittle. Maybe after a while of this, dad will realize that they need more help than he thinks.
At the very least, hire a night time aide.
Make sure father knows not to pick her up because she could be injured, or both could be injured further. I would suggest (in the summer), he put a lightweight yoga mat near her, with bedding, have her roll onto that and rest, with a cover. He could stay with her until she could maneuver to get up.
Before we criticize, could we all just think about what is soooo very bad about sleeping on the floor awhile? Didn't our kids do just that on sleep-overs growing up? The suggestions above are very excellent if one doesn't want to try unorthodox procedures.
Would your Mom consider moving to assisted living? If yes, would your Dad follow her there or would he still dig in his heels?
Curious why your Mom keeps falling out of bed? Wonder if the bed is now too small... my parents still sleep in a double bed which doesn't give one much room to roll over. A king size would be perfect if there is enough room in the bedroom.
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