Ok all, I am in a conundrum and need advice. This week I took my mom's dog to the vet and it turns out the dog needs major dental work done, the dog's teeth are rotting. My mom hasn't taken her dog to a vet in 3 years. The vet recommended having teeth extracted and it'll require the dog to be sedated but the dog also has a heart murmur so it's a bit of a risk, just a minor risk. But, once fixed, doggie will have many more years ahead. As soon as we finished the vet visit my mom said "I'm never going back there" but I know that without getting this dog's teeth extracted, it's going to get a terrible infection and die within a year or so. If we can get doggie tooth surgery, the dog has many more years to live. My mom lives for this dog. I know my mom is going to be resistant to the steps that we need to take to get this done. Do we move ahead and just try to convince my mom to work with us to take the dog in? Or do I go with what my mom wants which is to do nothing even though I know it will harm the dog and my mom because she'll lose the dog sooner? Anyone who's been through this, what do you recommend.
Definitely go with your instincts and take care of the dog properly - so they can continue living a happy and healthy life! And, whatever you need to do in advance to ensure that your mom won't be feeding him/her in the morning!
Wishing you the best of great luck in this!! Your mom's dog is lucky to have you as their advocate!
Best wishes!
Passed last week, because of a tooth infection. We are all heart broken.
Adorable little guy , would only let me put his flea meds on him, so he felt like mine. Granted he was older but when I saw him 2 weeks ago, he had much life left in him.
Maybe tell mom my story. 😓 , ugh now I'm crying again.
I said that to say this; you said your mom lives for that dog. I wouldn't just do Nothing.
Can you get a 2nd opinion?
Is it the cost that's the issue?
Personally, I would (if I had the financial means) help the dog. It would be nice to extend his life for your mom's health too.
My .02
I hoping the best for your mom and her dog.
I, to be honest with you, consider such neglect of an animal abuse. And I have little sympathy with those who will allow their animals or their children to be ill or in pain. Fortunately, with children, there is a way to address this; CPS is called. With animals, and in the case of this type of neglect, there is little to be done.
If your mother is demented and not responsible for her own decisions then you can and you should relieve this poor animal's agony.
If your mother is NOT demented--were it me and she chose to allow her animal to suffer--the suffering wouldn't take place where I would be privy to it.
So I am just saying, for me, animal abuse is a DEAL BREAKER. I would not allow any parent, child, brother, sister, friend or anyone else to abuse an animal. I would drop them like a hot potato.
What you do, has to be up to you. Your mother already told you she intends to allow this dog to suffer (PLEASE don't give me any nonsense about how much she loves it). If that's her decision she'd do it without me looking on. Your decision must be your own for your own life.
that’s a fact
i woukd advise your mother her dog is in pain and to be frank if she does not do anything the dog should be put into care /
anyone who has ever had a bad tooth knows the level of pain - same for the poor dog
she either gets it sorted or the dog will be taken away from her
tgey need to put a dog to sleep for this - maybe that’s her fear ?
end of day id rather take that risk than see my dog in pain ?
good luck
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