Since we moved here 9 years ago, our now 80 year old female neighbor has given us nothing but problems.
We share a wall with her, and her husband died just before we moved in. And she lost a son when he was like 10 or 11.
When we moved in, everyone in the neighborhood was nice to us until she talked to them, and any place we try to get jobs locally, she's already there to tarnish our reputations.
We are political opposites, and she doesn't like the ethnicity of my wife or her side of the family.
After she told my kids to "poke each other's eyes out", and both of my kids verified the story, we put a camera up to watch her.
She's also friends with the bus driver my kids ride to school with. The bus driver doesn't give my one kid any issue, but she was picking on my other son, so now he/she takes a bus at a different bus stop. The neighbor frequently checks up on us when I go to pick my kid up.
We went to the school about this, but we saw her leaving the school just as we were showing up for the meeting.
She's of the type of MRS. Kravetz on Bewiched.
We've had several neighbors live next door on our side of the house, I believe it was 5 different families since we moved here. That house is rented, we usually make friends with them, but shortly there after this neighbor woman causes them to hate us. One of the families had a girl who used to come over and play, with my kids, but this neighbor talked to the wife, and pretty soon the family moved out because they got a divorce. We think they split up over money problems after the 80 year old neighbor started playing "keeping up with the jones" with them.
A new family moved in last summer, and we made friends with them, and told them to watch out for her, but she started influencing the wife there and now they don't like us either.
We don't really know what to do with this situation.
You are giving this woman WAY too much credit here. Credit she doesn't deserve.
It's up to you and your family to make peace with this woman. Have you tried praying for her and going out of your way to be nice to her, like bringing her some of your leftovers so she can have a nice supper? Or bringing her a pretty plant/flower just to brighten her day?
Perhaps with it being Mother's day tomorrow, and with her already losing a child to death, a nice plant would cheer her up and let her know that she's not forgotten. I'm sure you've heard the old saying..."kill them with kindness." Well I think that certainly applies here don't you?
And while moving out is an option here, just remember that the grass isn't always greener on the other side.
Personally, I wouldn't stay any place where my family or I wasn't accepted.
Can you just ignore her foolishness?
2. I also have to ask..you say when you moved in everyone in the neighborhood was nice until she talked to them..have you ever been nice to her?
3. If this one person has the ability to destroy your reputations with false accusations you might want to talk to an attorney about your options to sue her for slander. (If she has also written accusations that have defamed you can also sue her for libel)
I guess you have a few options.
Move.
Tolerate it
Wait until she dies
No one person has this much power... a retired old lady no less.
Everything you posted cannot be substantiated because of the anonymous forum format so this is a "he said/she said" situation. We can give advice but will it be productive if what you posted isn't true?
Find a wise person who knows you and your family and ask their opinion. Other than that perhaps do some honest introspection to see if maybe these things are happening due to your own behaviors, assumptions, or actual paranoia.
For the sake of argument, suppose everything you said is 100% true. You could attempt to sue her but there'd be a lot of proving that would need to happen (how would you get the her cronies to testify against her and prove damage) and it would drain your time and wallet. If you sued and won, you'd stop the damaging behavior but not change her mind or the minds of the townspeople. Do you still want to raise your kids in a place like that? At the end of the day the only person you can control is yourself. If what you wrote is actually all true then I would move.
This story feels a little far fetched. I would have sold and moved out long ago.
Parking Wars Beat It! Lady on Youtube.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rAITYCNy0QE
She's not Catholic though. She isn't very well educated. She appears to be jealous as she wears the same clothes my wife wears as her kids make a lot of money.
She has little code names for us too that she talks to her family and friends about us with.
The OP post certainly is plausable although I have no advice. When we built our first house 25 years ago an elderly "friendly neighbor" came over to share every piece of gossip about the other neighbors. Red flags immediately triggered and yep we did have problems but nothing to this extent.
As for this neighbor going to your kids' school. If this was true, the school would have called you. Also, schools do not share student information with anyone who happens in and starts running their mouth about some kid. It's very similar to medical information. So the school told this woman nothing about your kids and didn't turn the school against you either.
I had to deal with my share of nosey, obnoxious, elderly PITAs being in the homecare field for so long. Family, in-law family, care clients and also a few neighbors. If this elderly neighbor of yours is actually following you when you go out, is coming onto your property, contacting you if you've plainly told her not to, and going to your kids' school, go to the police. That's stalking which is illegal in many states and the court will issue a restraining/protective order her regardless of how old she is. A restraining/protective order will also prohibit her harassing you online or at your places of work. The police will likely call APS because of her age because her behavior may be a dementia issue. The kind of asinine nonsense behavior is very common with dementia. The nice as pie to your face, cut you to shreds behind your back behavior to others. Talking to the police may even help her too if she has dementia.
Go talk to the cops. Let them handle her which is their job. If she tries to get your attention when you're leaving your home, flip her off. Don't even speak to her. Put up cameras around your place too. You may need that footage for the police at some point.
We are a forum of Caregivers caring for parents, spouses or other relatives even friends. We share our experience and hopefully point people in the right direction. We are from all over the US. A few from Australia, Canada, UK and other countries. I don't really see how we can help you.