I do not live in the home with my mom. I live about 5 miles away. When my brother is out of money, he pleads for her help. She allows him to stay at her house. While he is there, he steals her cash, allows other addicts to sleep in her garage. There are people coming and going at all hours of the night. Once he steals enough money, he gets high to the point that he is talking to himself and demonstrating other bizarre behavior. She then contacts me and has me call the police and have him removed. How do I break this cycle? She will always let him back in. He can be verbally abusive and his behavior causes undo stress. Help.
You can bet he's stealing from her. Anything easy to pawn, cash and probably hitting her up for as much as he can get out of her. While you may be absolutely certain HE would never hurt mom, you cannot say the same about the low lifes he allows on the premises. (And really? You can't say that about your brother, either.)
Tell your mom that if she allows drug users to use on her property, in her garage, she is risking becoming a public nuisance in the neighborhood. People WILL report them. If it continues, there is a real possibility that her home could be confiscated. It's called civil forfeiture. 80% of assets seized by virtue of civil forfeiture are never returned...even if your mom is completely blameless. It's a serious matter.
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They never did work. He had won a law suit years ago for 350,000. She said she would never work until she was too old to have fun. Needless to say I reviewed this in the morning with my husband , their Dad and after years of this type of abuse went with me to the local Sheriff. We live in my home. The Sheriff told them if they ever come out here again without an invitation , they will both go to jail. That is a Sheriff worth his pay. He also explained to them since the property is in my name, unless I invite them they cannot come or contact us. They are into drugs up to their neck. This has gone on for 30yrs.
I cannot say how much stress these type of people put on others. Unbelievable. sharirose
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