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Your mom has dementia. There are laws about who decides. If your mom is mentally competent (it's possible, even if she has dementia), then she can sign herself out of the nursing home if she wants.
If your mom is mentally incompetent, she can't decide. Her POA can decide. But guardianship trumps POA. If you want to be the decision-maker, if you feel you will make good decisions for your mom, then go to court and file for guardianship. If her husband opposes you in court, you'll have to try to win. The court will also ask your mom (even though she has dementia) whether she would like to have you as her guardian. It's expensive to file for guardianship.
If you think right this moment a crime is being committed against your mom, or your mom is in danger, then call the police. You have real evidence of this danger? There's no need to answer me, but keep that in mind. The fact that you're hesitating to call 911, means you're not sure you really have evidence of immediate danger, otherwise you would have called the police already.
What's the reason the cases were closed with adult protective services? I'd guess that they found no crime or reason to change things for mom.
If you believe and have proof otherwise, you should perhaps go to the police. But they're unlikely to do anything if you don't have proof. Do you have videos or recorded phone calls? Have you seen a crime with your own eyes?
If mom is the one complaining to you, and if she's in a nursing home, why do you believe what she says? You can't believe dementia patients. They make stuff up and try to get attention. They don't know what is happening to them much of the time.
Their stories are told to make sense of what they don't understand. For instance, I had a relative who believed there was someone hiding in his house. The reason? He saw wet footprints leading up to his door. He didn't remember that he was the one who recently came in the door. There was no one else, and the footprints exactly matched the sole of his running shoes, which were an unusually small size for a man. But he couldn't be convinced that no one had entered his house. I'm glad I didn't call the police on that one!
Do what you want, but don't be taken in by unprovable allegations. It's a waste of everyone's time.
Not much the police can do. If APS has investigated and closed the case, they feel Mom is being cared for and not abused. Her husband has a right to place her if he can no longer care for her.
I read your profile. Her husband put her in a nursing home, correct? Plus you are banned. It is no wonder that APS closed the case. If you want guardianship then it will be expensive and highly doubtful the judge will agree to it.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
If your mom is mentally incompetent, she can't decide. Her POA can decide. But guardianship trumps POA. If you want to be the decision-maker, if you feel you will make good decisions for your mom, then go to court and file for guardianship. If her husband opposes you in court, you'll have to try to win. The court will also ask your mom (even though she has dementia) whether she would like to have you as her guardian. It's expensive to file for guardianship.
If you think right this moment a crime is being committed against your mom, or your mom is in danger, then call the police. You have real evidence of this danger? There's no need to answer me, but keep that in mind. The fact that you're hesitating to call 911, means you're not sure you really have evidence of immediate danger, otherwise you would have called the police already.
If you believe and have proof otherwise, you should perhaps go to the police. But they're unlikely to do anything if you don't have proof. Do you have videos or recorded phone calls? Have you seen a crime with your own eyes?
If mom is the one complaining to you, and if she's in a nursing home, why do you believe what she says? You can't believe dementia patients. They make stuff up and try to get attention. They don't know what is happening to them much of the time.
Their stories are told to make sense of what they don't understand. For instance, I had a relative who believed there was someone hiding in his house. The reason? He saw wet footprints leading up to his door. He didn't remember that he was the one who recently came in the door. There was no one else, and the footprints exactly matched the sole of his running shoes, which were an unusually small size for a man. But he couldn't be convinced that no one had entered his house. I'm glad I didn't call the police on that one!
Do what you want, but don't be taken in by unprovable allegations. It's a waste of everyone's time.
Your can love her.
But love is not enough to provide 24/7 care to a person with Alzeimers/Dementia.