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I believe that every caregiver should be paid and that it is especially important when there are siblings. I don't think the pay should be a huge hardship for the parent, but most seniors have SS and/or some retirement income. They should have the dignity of paying their own way, even if it is not full market value.
What is "plenty" of retirement income is not for others to judge. And giving up personal time to care for someone else (even someone you love) is a sacrifice. That should be recognized and rewarded by the rest of the family.
Paying the child who is doing the caregiving allows equal distribution of the estate (if there is any to distribute) after the parent's death. For one child to "donate" three years of her life to caring for the parent and then all the children to inherit equally leads to hard feelings. Pay-as-you go for the caregiving avoids this completely.
It is also important -- critical -- that some arrangement be made for respite for the caregiver. Regular time off is essential to avoid burnout. This could be provided by a paid professional, or by other family members.
Yes, I think she should be paid for taking care of your parent, as long as your parent can afford to pay her. The fact that your sister has plenty of retirement income should not enter into it, in my opinion.
Absolutely. Especially if the care provided by the sister is keeping mom out of a care facility or taking the place of paid in-home care. Your sister may have "plenty of retirement income", but she is giving up a relaxed, relatively care-free retirement to care for mom. You and your other siblings (if there are any) should do everything you can to thank your sister, give her breaks whenever possible, and compensate her for her time. If Medicaid may be in the future for your mom, you should have a care contract written up so that the money paid to your sister is not treated as a gift on mom's Medicaid application.
Macada....thank you for your opinion. It sounds right to me. I give him money for Especially difficult and demanding situations. He's a very helpful and loving son.
Check out how much Assisted Living or a Nursing Home would cost. Then do a little research into what a great job these people do. I hear it is a mixed bag. Then instead of asking if your sister should be paid, why not ask how can I show her my gratitude for a job well done.
mythyme- I think a person should be paid by their parent if they have given up their job and social life to care for their parent(s). Before I was my mum's live-in-caregiver I was just her POA and I did a lot of running around for her financial matters etc. but I didn't charge her for my time for errands. When I gave up my employment to look after her.. that is when I started to take a salary.
My brother is disabled and not able to hold a full-time job. He gets paid for doing housekeeping tasks for Mother, by the county program she is on. He puts in more time than they pay in for but some of it is companionship. This arrangement is good for the whole family.
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
VI. No Waiver of Your Rights.
APFM does not (and may not) require or even ask consumers seeking senior housing or care services in Washington State to sign waivers of liability for losses of personal property or injury or to sign waivers of any rights established under law.
I agree that:
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I authorize A Place For Mom ("APFM") to collect certain personal and contact detail information, as well as relevant health care information about me or from me about the senior family member or relative I am assisting ("Senior Living Care Information").
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APFM may provide information to me electronically. My electronic signature on agreements and documents has the same effect as if I signed them in ink.
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APFM may send all communications to me electronically via e-mail or by access to an APFM web site.
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If I want a paper copy, I can print a copy of the Disclosures or download the Disclosures for my records.
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This E-Sign Acknowledgement and Authorization applies to these Disclosures and all future Disclosures related to APFM's services, unless I revoke my authorization. You may revoke this authorization in writing at any time (except where we have already disclosed information before receiving your revocation.) This authorization will expire after one year.
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You consent to APFM's reaching out to you using a phone system than can auto-dial numbers (we miss rotary phones, too!), but this consent is not required to use our service.
I believe that every caregiver should be paid and that it is especially important when there are siblings. I don't think the pay should be a huge hardship for the parent, but most seniors have SS and/or some retirement income. They should have the dignity of paying their own way, even if it is not full market value.
What is "plenty" of retirement income is not for others to judge. And giving up personal time to care for someone else (even someone you love) is a sacrifice. That should be recognized and rewarded by the rest of the family.
Paying the child who is doing the caregiving allows equal distribution of the estate (if there is any to distribute) after the parent's death. For one child to "donate" three years of her life to caring for the parent and then all the children to inherit equally leads to hard feelings. Pay-as-you go for the caregiving avoids this completely.
It is also important -- critical -- that some arrangement be made for respite for the caregiver. Regular time off is essential to avoid burnout. This could be provided by a paid professional, or by other family members.
Especially difficult and demanding situations. He's a very helpful and loving son.