I'm a little worried about my brother. I had to take over medical care for my mom with stage 7 Alzheimer's. He's just in denial. He was scheduling eye doctor appointments despite her not being to answer questions about what letter she might actually be seeing. She has multiple apraxias and no longer can figure out how to operate a sink faucet. He was there for one such episode and describes it as not having enough strength to operate it. Should I just give up on him? I don't think I'm able to reach him at this stage.
Perhaps you could get some basic info and give that to him in written form or in the form of a video if that makes it easier for him.
He could surely be in denial and that's common. You can't really blame him for wanting to protect himself from this kind of thing, but if he is her primary caretaker that's a different story. He will need to educate himself in that case. Does he live with her?
At this stage, if you want to care for her personally, you may want to see if she qualifies for Hospice. You still will be doing most of her care but you will able to get supplies and durable equipment like a hospital bed. Some of the supplies you will get is Depends and chux. An aide will come out to bathe her and maybe can stay long enough so you can run errands or just get away for a little while. There will be no more doctor or hospital visits.
The eye doctor visit. If she can no longer read, she really probably does not need new glasses. My nephew has been wearing glasses since 8 months old. I asked his doctor how he can determine what strength he needed. I was told by how the light refracs off the retina. She should be checked for glocoma and degenerative eye desease because both cause blindness.
How old is your brother? Old enough to have cognitive problems himself? Just a thought...