Mom has moderate dementia, but doesn't understand there is no 'recovery' from it. She insists she is getting her memory back and doesn't need anyone 'babysitting' her. I need to have relief since I'm her primary caregiver and there with her 24/7. Any suggestions on how to introduce her to respite care is appreciated. It is going to happen no matter what, but I would prefer to use a more gentler approach if possible.
for example . while on hospice it was suggested that my mother might enjoy the comraderie of day care . mom told me that she wasnt ruling it out but the way she envisioned it , i would attend with her at least initially and be prepared to wisk her out of there at her first moment of discomfort .
so this example explains my " lifeline / protector " theory perfectly ..
You may be more apt to get her to agree to have someone in if you can find a label for them that doesn't include the notion that she can't stay alone. She might be more accepting of someone who is coming to help you (not her) do some light cleaning, or someone to help with meals (once again, to help you because you will be tired after your day away). Alternatively, some people have great success bringing their loved ones to a senior's centre or adult day care fore a couple of days a week. And as Cap says, if you are there the first few times she will be less apprehensive and may be more accepting when you are not there.
You will need to get time off from daily non-stop care giving.
The suggestion that you can use, aforementioned, is that YOU need
help with chores, blah blah, and perhaps stay home while hired person is
doing such.
Then, as the familiarity with paid caregiver increases, take off. 1.5 hours first time, 2, 3, half day.
Mom will be used to that, and it's a great help for you.
Some housekeeping done, and you gone even if you just
sit on a bench "people watching", or take a nap at one
of your friends or relative's home.
Recharge those batteries and go forward!
M88