
Due to his unusual forgetfulness, I suspect my 79-year-old husband may have dementia. The doctor has scheduled a brain MRI and then maybe a cognitive test. If he is diagnosed with dementia what are my next steps? We have no kids but he does have a younger brother; do I inform him? (I've already warned him of the possibility.) I also already have his Healthcare and Durable Powers of Attorney (as he has mine).
I just am so worried about what to do if he is diagnosed with dementia. There's no way his brother can really help; he still works full-time and lives 2 hours away as do all his nieces and nephews. Any advice appreciated, thanks.
Stick around here for very useful guidance and help. Many wives are in your shoes, you're not alone.
Unfortunately, one of the first things you need to focus on is your joint financial situation, including the legal aspects. Make a list of every account. Gather the files and get all the passwords; sign into anything that needs two-factor authentication so he can get you approved. Have him introduce you to his financial people if there are any. Get the safe-deposit box key, if he has one.
Also, meet with an Elder Law attorney to advise you on what else to cover -- POAs (his AND yours, as Rosered pointed out), wills, beneficiary accounts, etc. Also ask about protecting your home, assets, and ability to qualify him for long-term care under Medicaid should that need arise in the future.
Are you close in age to him? Are you working or are you both retired?
Again, my sympathy to you.