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When we tell her, she will refuse to move out of her house. How do we enforce it? How do we get her to physically walk out the door when the time comes?
Do you mean your mother has been deemed incompetent and you have a court appointed guardianship? If you are worried you will have to drag her out kicking and screaming then I would use some therapeutic trickery, tell her you are going out for a medical appointment or out to a restaurant. Let the AL know your strategy in advance so they can play along and welcome you all in their dining room or staff can tell her they need her to stay "for a few days" after her initial exam.
Linda, you can get some advice from the Assisted Living on what they have found works best, as they see this on a regular basis whenever someone new moves in. Cwillie had a good idea above.
For my Dad, it was $$$ as it was becoming expensive having Dad live in Independent Living and having now 24 hour in-suite care from an outside agency. Once Dad learned how much he would save each month, he was ready to move. Yes, the room was a studio apartment so he couldn't bring everything but half the furniture he wasn't using in the IL apartment. I also told Dad to think this is like living in a college dorm except there won't be any loud parties at night :)
Thank you cwillie and freqflier for your suggestions. Yes, mom has been deemed incompetent by her doctor. I don't think I can go the route of the trickery, but will talk to someone at the assisted care home to see if they can offer some help. What would be the last resort if all fails and she refuses to walk out the door? Call police? Seems extreme and they have better things to do.
I hope you mean that you have legal guardianship established in a court proceeding, and not just a determination of her being incompetent by her doctor.
There is no easy way of getting it done. When it was time for my inlaws to move to indy living, we started the conversation months before the final move happened with a video of the place. A few months later we sent them for a respite stay. They returned and pretended like the whole thing never happened. When us "kids" wouldn't let the subject drop, they finally agreed that they needed to live somewhere with necessary services under one roof. Even after agreeing to move they created drama, but that's another story. We kept reinforcing the same few messages: we loved them; they needed help; we needed peace of mind. Can you get a video brochure of the home to watch with your mom? Can you take your mom there for a tour that includes a meal? Perhaps asking the director to invite mom's would-be neighbors to the table for lunch would be a nice touch?
Yes vegaslady, we went to court to obtain the guardianship. NYDIL, it sounds like you did a good job preparing your inlaws. We too have brought the subject up but not often since it is met with such resistance. She won't leave her house anymore so an invitation to lunch and tour would be turned down. Thank you both for responding. It's nice to know we're not alone :)
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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For my Dad, it was $$$ as it was becoming expensive having Dad live in Independent Living and having now 24 hour in-suite care from an outside agency. Once Dad learned how much he would save each month, he was ready to move. Yes, the room was a studio apartment so he couldn't bring everything but half the furniture he wasn't using in the IL apartment. I also told Dad to think this is like living in a college dorm except there won't be any loud parties at night :)