My 90 year old dad has advanced dementia, and is presently in a local hospital after being treated for a UTI. He was sent to the hospital by his private pay memory care facility, but the facility will not be taking him back because his level of care is exceeding their ability to safely care for him. During his current stay at the hospital, they have restrained him to his bed because he tries to get out, and have been using sedative medicines to calm him. He has a history of combative and aggressive behaviors, and in the past we have had to move him out of other private pay units because of his behaviors. Over the last two years now, this will be the third facility that has either asked him to leave or would not take him back from a hospital stay. The social work department at the hospital has been sending out referrals to nursing homes. Four of them accepted him, many others declined him. I visited the four facilities that accepted him. One of them does not have a bed available in their memory care unit, so I don't know why they agreed to take him. Another facility has closed their memory unit for renovations and it won't be open for several more months, and so I don't know why they accepted him either. I visited and toured all four nursing homes, and also went online and read reviews about them. The two homes that have beds available in their memory care units, and without going into detail, were deplorable. Even the online reviews about them were consistently negative. In an effort to find a suitable facility, I did my own research using the Medicare.gov website, and identified about ten facilities with positive ratings and reviews. I submitted them to the social worker at the hospital who sent a referral to them. Every one of those facilities declined him. I do not want him in either of the two facilities that accepted him, and the social worker is pressing me to accept. I keep researching more and more nursing homes with positive ratings and reviews, even those farther and farther from my home, and when the social worker sends a referral to them, they all decline him. My concern is that if I continue to refuse a referral to a nursing home that will accept him, insurance will stop paying for his stay at the hospital, and we will get billed for his stay there. After five years of private pay facilities, my dad's money is running out in less than two months. If I accept his placement in one of these deplorable nursing homes, and use it as a temporary solution while I continue to look elsewhere, I may never find another one willing to take him. Bringing him to my home is not an option. At this point, should I stand my ground and refuse those placements? Do I have to accept one of them? And at what point might insurance stop paying for his stay at the hospital? What are my options, especially if every other nursing home with suitable reviews continue to decline him?
He cannot stay at the hospital for a great length of time or he WILL be billed after insurance is denied. You'll need to place him, let the meds do their job, and then see about a transfer to another SNF once he has a good behavior record to report.
I'm sorry you're going through this and wish you good luck and Godspeed with a difficult situation.
Insurance will press the hospital who in turn will press you to make a decision, since hospital stays are very expensive (one of the biggest cost being the room).
Good luck!