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I believe most people are VERY uncomfortable with dementia.
As some people fear death.

They do not know what to say due to their own discomfort.
Instead of being able to come out and say that, they retreat.

Have you reached out to these friends and let them know that you feel abandoned? Giving "I statements". ...
I feel xxx
instead of: "You abandoned me" which will put them more on the defensive than they may already be.

It all depends on if you want to confront them and what benefit it is to you to do so. You might get more support from strangers (such as we are - who understand what you are feeling and want to support you) or someone at a church or counseling center.

While it may be difficult to do, try to realize that they may not feel they are abandoning you due to their own inability to be present and support you, and they are embarrassed that they do not know what to say or how to support you.

Sometimes a person needs to tell their 'friends' (family) HOW to offer support, or what you actually want and need to feel supported. These friends may be abl and desirous to give you support if you tell them what you need.
They may even want to and feel embarrassed that they don't know what to do - or how.

It depends on what feels right to you to take care of yourself.

How are you managing?
Let us know how you are doing.

Gena / Touch Matters
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