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My grandma is so mean and cruel to me and only me not my brother and sister! She’s called me a b*tch and yells at me everyday and when she’s mad she takes it out on me and she wonders why I’m mad at her!
Hard to say, maybe you remind her of someone else in the family who either treated her badly, disappointed her in some lasting or perceived way, perhaps someone she was jealous of as a child even, maybe her mother or sister or your mother? It probably isn't really about you at all and if she has dementia of any sort she may very well be living in the past somewhere and she isn't even thinking of you as you, her grand daughter. This doesn't make it any less wrong and you shouldn't be going through this or feeling this way but maybe it will help a little to consider that perhaps you either look or have the mannerisms of some other ancestor.
What do your siblings, parents or other relatives say about it? I sure hope you will talk to someone you are close with who is also close to the situation about the way you are feeling, they might be able to either help deflect some of your grandmothers treatment or shed some light on it for you.
If your grandma has dementia, she is not being cruel to you. The part of her brain that understands relationships between people may be damaged too much for her to remember you and how much she loved you. It is not at all unusual for people who have dementia to focus negative comments and reactions on someone whom they previous to their illness, loved dearly. Educate yourself about dementia and symptoms of it.
You can stop being mad at her when you learn and accept the fact that an illness is causing her to say unkind things and yelling at you. She doesn’t know what she’s doing and doesn’t mean to hurt you or be unkind to you. Her “filter” doesn’t stop her from saying unexpected things.
When you are able to stay calm and ignore her strange behavior instead of reacting to it, you will be giving her the wonderful gift of her grand daughter’s compassion and understanding.
I’m so sorry. You don’t deserve being called ugly names by your grandma. Are you caring for her? Please give more details so we can help further.
I know there aren’t supposed to be favorites among grandkids but I have seen it over and over. I don’t have grandkids but I would like to think I would love them all the same.
Does you grandma have ALZ or another issue that may be the cause of this? Can you walk away when she starts being mean to you? Do you have any idea why she does this? If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you.
I hope your situation improves. Take care and hugs!
By proceeding, I agree that I understand the following disclosures:
I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
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Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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What do your siblings, parents or other relatives say about it? I sure hope you will talk to someone you are close with who is also close to the situation about the way you are feeling, they might be able to either help deflect some of your grandmothers treatment or shed some light on it for you.
The part of her brain that understands relationships between people may be damaged too much for her to remember you and how much she loved you.
It is not at all unusual for people who have dementia to focus negative comments and reactions on someone whom they previous to their illness, loved dearly.
Educate yourself about dementia and symptoms of it.
You can stop being mad at her when you learn and accept the fact that an illness is causing her to say unkind things and yelling at you. She doesn’t know what she’s doing and doesn’t mean to hurt you or be unkind to you. Her “filter” doesn’t stop her from saying unexpected things.
When you are able to stay calm and ignore her strange behavior instead of reacting to it, you will be giving her the wonderful gift of her grand daughter’s compassion and understanding.
I know there aren’t supposed to be favorites among grandkids but I have seen it over and over. I don’t have grandkids but I would like to think I would love them all the same.
Does you grandma have ALZ or another issue that may be the cause of this? Can you walk away when she starts being mean to you? Do you have any idea why she does this? If you don’t mind me asking, how old are you.
I hope your situation improves. Take care and hugs!