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It is hard to watch them deteriorate and see them no longer be able to do with they us to do. I think part of what makes this so difficult is in facing their own mortality, we are forced to face our own earlier than we would like to.
Some of this comes from the sear exhaustion of anticipatory grief and feeling totally powerless to fix anything.
Take care and do something nice for yourself today instead of beating yourself up emotionally.
I felt that way for the last two years of my patients life, I cared for him for 7 yrs and watched him be neglected for five of those years powerless to stop it and I tried.
Both of my parents died fairly young and quickly and while I would give anything to have them back, I wouldn't want to watch them go slowly like my grandparents did.
I personally think these feelings are normal. While I was devastated and heartbroken that my mom was gone. I felt a huge sense of relief, like a weight has been lifted from my shoulders. I knew my mom was in a better place, pain free and Abel to talk, laugh and dance with her loved ones who passes before. I am sure our Lord met her with open arms! I had an uncle who always said "I want to die". I used to tell him God doesn't want you yet so be happy while you are here. I wish and pray for peace and comfort for you on this difficult journey.
At times I feel sad that my cousin is no longer herself. I miss her. I sure do hate that she can't have her life the way she wanted it. Dementia is so cruel. She's told me that she is afraid of losing the memories of her parents. They were great parents.
I don't want her to be in pain. She suffered a spine fracture and it still bothers her. I've noticed her hand dexterity is fading. Her incontinence is increasing. Her attention span is very short too, but then I arrive for a visit and she is so upbeat. She seems so happy. She's thrilled with the doll I got her for Christmas. She's tickled over the jewelry and decorations I brought for her room. There don't seem to be any concerns. On these days, I'm thankful and think that maybe, she is happy and that her time left will be peaceful. We just can't know what they are truly thinking and what the next day will hold. It's as if, I expect it any day, yet I can't imagine it happening. It just breaks my heart.
I understand what your feeling!its the longest goodbye!its a long journey and it doesn't mean you don't love them!you mourn them why they are alive each part that you lose from them!my mother has had it for 20yrs now!she is 89 I miss so much about her!our long conversations she always had such wisdom and she was my best friend!
I say it every single day. Please take her. I am getting ready to sell my soul to the devil to get rid of her. I know. But that is how much I hate her.
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I. How We Work in Washington.
Based on your preferences, we provide you with information about one or more of our contracted senior living providers ("Participating Communities") and provide your Senior Living Care Information to Participating Communities. The Participating Communities may contact you directly regarding their services.
APFM does not endorse or recommend any provider. It is your sole responsibility to select the appropriate care for yourself or your loved one. We work with both you and the Participating Communities in your search. We do not permit our Advisors to have an ownership interest in Participating Communities.
II. How We Are Paid.
We do not charge you any fee – we are paid by the Participating Communities. Some Participating Communities pay us a percentage of the first month's standard rate for the rent and care services you select. We invoice these fees after the senior moves in.
III. When We Tour.
APFM tours certain Participating Communities in Washington (typically more in metropolitan areas than in rural areas.) During the 12 month period prior to December 31, 2017, we toured 86.2% of Participating Communities with capacity for 20 or more residents.
IV. No Obligation or Commitment.
You have no obligation to use or to continue to use our services. Because you pay no fee to us, you will never need to ask for a refund.
V. Complaints.
Please contact our Family Feedback Line at (866) 584-7340 or ConsumerFeedback@aplaceformom.com to report any complaint. Consumers have many avenues to address a dispute with any referral service company, including the right to file a complaint with the Attorney General's office at: Consumer Protection Division, 800 5th Avenue, Ste. 2000, Seattle, 98104 or 800-551-4636.
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It is hard to watch them deteriorate and see them no longer be able to do with they us to do. I think part of what makes this so difficult is in facing their own mortality, we are forced to face our own earlier than we would like to.
Some of this comes from the sear exhaustion of anticipatory grief and feeling totally powerless to fix anything.
Take care and do something nice for yourself today instead of beating yourself up emotionally.
I don't want her to be in pain. She suffered a spine fracture and it still bothers her. I've noticed her hand dexterity is fading. Her incontinence is increasing. Her attention span is very short too, but then I arrive for a visit and she is so upbeat. She seems so happy. She's thrilled with the doll I got her for Christmas. She's tickled over the jewelry and decorations I brought for her room. There don't seem to be any concerns. On these days, I'm thankful and think that maybe, she is happy and that her time left will be peaceful. We just can't know what they are truly thinking and what the next day will hold. It's as if, I expect it any day, yet I can't imagine it happening. It just breaks my heart.