My Mom had a bad fall and needed surgery. She is going to be in a wheelchair for at least 4 months then crutches and walker. The home will not accommodate a wheelchair and the only full bathroom is up stairs. She was not steady on her feet before this awful fall.
This may work if your elder has dementia. If not, the conversation may be more about the reasons that they can't go home (too many steps, not enough help at home), but to my way of thinking, if an elder is convinced that they can manage when objective people ( their doctor, the OT who examines their home, we, the folks who know we'll get called when they fall) then they are either suffering from dementia, or are in deep, deep denial or both.
We are not obligated to give up our livelihoods, our retirement benefits, our health or our relationships "because that's what dad wants". Dad/mom/gramps can get their NEEDS met, not always their desires.
My MIL loved her rehab and did not want to come home even when she was well able too... and now FIL was in rehab and could not wait to come home. Both fall alot, wont listen to useing walker/cane.. avoid stairs... more falls.
Tree, if it is not doable.. don;t do it.. for your sanity and thier health. Let social workers and professions talk to her, and just say no!
So family and friends will stay with a woman that likely needs 24 hr. care for at least 2 months for $1,000/month split between them? 24 hr care x 7 days x 4 weks is 672 hrs/month divided by $1,000 is $1.49/hr. And this is assuming the woman is easy going and willing to listen to her care providers---which she clearly isn't as she wants to go home to an unsafe environment? Why not transfer her to a rehab facility temporarily where the gov. will pay 100% for her stay? Trust me, this is a bad idea. It's nice that friends and family are willing to "help"--but these situations almost never work out because friends and family don't have the skills and training for these jobs and do not realize the work load physically and mentally. This is not just "minding grandma". That is why they burn out and place family in homes in the first place. Good luck, though.
That person keeps commenting on questions that I give my opinion on and they are now being help they are speaking nonsense, that's all. Lol