Our loved one needs help with all ADLs and he has been living in a personal care home with available care resources. He has been on hospice care for 6 months because he qualifies physically for the added care. The problem is that he refuses the care and his health is declining because of it. Both the home and hospice nurse say they can’t force him to accept the care. The situation is frustrating and infuriating because our loved one is sitting in soiled briefs for the entire day and their skin is breaking down. They are no longer ambulatory and can no longer transfer themselves to the toilet or bed and have repeated falls. Has anyone else ever had this experience? Any advice would be greatly appreciated.
The caregivers in this "personal care home" should know how to change your loved ones dirty briefs in spite of him not wanting them changed. When I worked in a Memory Care Assisted Living facility, the caregivers all knew how to change briefs on screaming and fighting residents.
If the CGs at this facility do not learn how to change briefs on an objectionable elder, they're all in for a world of hurt. Your loved one will develop sores and skin issues that can be fatal. You're paying for care. Make sure loved one GETS care or move him to a facility that will GIVE him proper care. And hire a new hospice company too. While you cannot physically place a fighting elder under a shower head, you CAN change his soiled brief in order to avoid lawsuits. I'd mention that word to this facility.
I'm sorry you're going through this and wish you good luck and Godspeed with a difficult situation.
Why does husband want to sit in soiled Depends all day? If he is cognizant, then he can be reasoned with. Its causing his skin to break down and next bedsores that will hurt and get infected. Lets try to stop that from happening. I understand the law but, when him not allowing people to help with his care effects others, thats not right. Meaning the smell that is coming off him.