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I had burnout from caring for my mother long distance for 15 years and it really went beyond burnout. What is that called and what are the symptoms?

You need to tell a doctor or therapist your symptoms because no one on this forum is able to diagnose you, especially when you don't divulge any symptoms.

I'm sorry you are beyond burned out, but please do yourself a favor and seek professional help.
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You could have PTSD or something else but no one here is properly qualified to tell you for certain, much less offer treatment. I hope you’ll seek professional guidance starting with your doctor and maybe a referral to someone else from there. I wish you healing and peace
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Long distance burnout?
How often do you talk to her?
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ANNA717 16 hours ago
she said an hour every morning.
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I don't know about the highest level of burnout, but I think of it as compassion fatigue, when you have nothing left to give. You're physically and emotionally spent. Too many demands and stressors for too long. I think it's your brain/body saying Enough and you have to care for yourself now.
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Could it be depression? You might want to speak with a therapist.
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Ask a mental health professional.

The highest level of caregiver burnout is death.

I don't know what you did long distance for 15 years that brought you to this level of suffering. You should or could have stopped before reaching that point.
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Freyasmom24 17 hours ago
I've been diagnosed with a serious case of caregiver burnout and PTSD. I may never be able to return back to the work force
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I feel for anyone emotionally spent. I am not cut out for this caregiving and am struggling to maintain my own sanity. I need more social interaction than most I think, and my husband, not being at all himself, has made me feel like I need emotional support of a male friend. I don't think it makes me a bad person, but my kids think it does. I am so tired of feeling constant self denial, and wish this all would be over with. Sorry I'm not really helpful, just venting.
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Foamergirl 18 hours ago
I feel the same. Thanks for sharing.
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I also care for my mother long distance. I call her every morning and we talk for almost an hour. She lives at home, but has no one to care for her or assess her, but me. She can still manage at 97, doing housework, bathing and doing basic tasks. She is hard of hearing so I am her translator when her nurse practitioner visits for an hour, I arrange her yard workers, hearing aid specialists, chart notes for drs., social worker contacts, dental appts., home insurance, some bill paying, annuity transfers; basically I am her personal assistant. I have a 4 yr. old grandson I watch and try to meet friends, and manage. People have no idea how much time is involved in care giving long distance; many hours are involved, but I am happy to care for her since I can't be there with her and she took care of me.
I understand your dilemma and it's important to make time for yourself, just a few minutes every day, or a day off to do something you love, and prayer! : )
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Foamergirl 18 hours ago
Bless you for doing all you do!
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Puking, nausea, hair loss, weight loss, anxiety and depression, insomnia, certain noises set your teeth on edge, twenty questions and nothing makes sense. PTSD?
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14 years taking care of my mother short-distance, since I'm living with her. All day long (minus 6 hours of sleep per night). Burnout? Of course. 14 years battling Alzheimer's without feeling burnout is utopic.
What is the highest level of burnout?
It depends on the caregiver, but I would say death. When the caregiver dies due to burnout, that's the maximum level. I have not reached it yet.
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Death, and it does occur. Statistics show 30-40% of all caregivers die before the one they are caring for. Do get some therapy/counseling asap.
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