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My husband had radiation treatments for prostate cancer 20 months ago. Things were fine for a year until total incontinence started setting in. I think the remission is over with because he just got a scan after the last PSA test. No one wants me to know anything yet. They just need me to keep cleaning up after the "accidents". I have men's Depends on hand but not used, so I sneak bed pads around.

I don't have POA yet, a procrasting problem I have, but I have never been left out of knowing whats going on with my husbands health. Is your husband denying you the info. Has he signed a HIPAA form saying you can receive info.

Usually with the prostate, they can't go. The only time my husband had problems was after a procedure and the anesthetic caused the incontenance. It wore off and everything was OK. The internet says radiation rarely causes this problem. You really need to speak up and be your husbands advocate. You are tge one who cares for him. Use those Depends!

"Radiation therapy for prostate cancer can cause incontinence, but it is less common than with surgery, affecting roughly 4% to 11% of patients long-term. While temporary urgency and leakage are common during treatment due to inflammation (radiation cystitis), permanent, severe incontinence is rare." 
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He needs to wear the Depends starting today and you need to go with him to the doctor and find out what is going on. It might be dementia and it might be a new infection.
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Why in the world would you not let your husband use the Depends you have "onhand?" It's much easier to change an adult diaper than it is to have to keep changing his clothes, bed pads and himself. I mean...why are you intentionally making more work for yourself here?
And just because your husband is now incontinent doesn't necessarily mean that his prostate cancer is back, but I would most certainly insist that his doctor fill you in as to what exactly is going on so you can better prepare for your husbands care.
As his wife you deserve to know, but you must put your big girl panties on and insist you be told TODAY.
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Why is your husband not taking responsibility for his incontinence? Does he also have Alzheimer’s or dementia? I’m sorry his doctors aren’t including you in sharing information, that’s very frustrating.
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